On how to approach me, what tribute means, and why discretion runs both ways.

The first thing I learn about a person is how they begin. Before the request, before anything is arranged, there is the way they choose to write to me, and that tells me almost everything I need to know.

So I will be plain about how this works. Not to discourage you. To make it possible.

Tell me something real. Who you are, what draws you, what you are hoping for, in your own words and without performance. I am not looking for flattery and I am not moved by volume. I am looking for a person who has thought about why they are writing rather than simply that they want to. A careless first message, the one-line demand, the same paragraph clearly sent to ten women at once, is not refused so much as left unanswered. I notice the difference at once, and in time, so will you.

For all Enquiries and especially for travel arrangements, a 50% non-refundable deposit is paid in advance, before anything is confirmed. This is not an obstacle placed in your path. It is the thing that clears it. It settles the question of seriousness so that nothing else need be discussed twice, and it allows everything that follows to unfold without friction. I will state it once, plainly, and I will not state it differently if asked again. There is nothing cold in that. It is simply the order in which things happen.

My terms are not an opening position. There is no lower figure, no reduced deposit, no arrangement off the agreed shape of things. A request to meet a term I will always answer kindly, and as many times as it takes. A request to alter one I will not answer at all. The distinction matters, and the people I keep understand it without ever being told twice.

Discretion runs in both directions. Yours is held absolutely, without exception and without curiosity. Mine is expected in return, with exactly the same seriousness. Discretion is not secrecy for its own sake. It is the respect that makes everything else possible, and it is the first thing I withdraw from anyone who treats it carelessly.

If reading this has made you hesitate, that is useful information, and you should trust it. But if it has done the opposite, if the clarity of it came as a relief rather than a deterrent, then you already understand the kind of arrangement I offer, and the kind of person I offer it to.

You will know how to reach me.